by Kathie England

Better Than Before – Day 3

Different Solutions for Different People is the next focus in Better Than Before.

One of Gretchen Rubin’s other books is The Happiness Project. In that book she invites readers to identify the overarching principles by which they lead their lives. From this perspective she offers a number of questions to help create self-awareness in the quest to help individuals become better than before by creating habits that serve them.

What are your answers?

  • Am I a lark or an owl?
  • Am I a marathoner, a sprinter, or a procrastinator?
  • Am I an underbuyer or an overbuyer?
  • Am I a simplicity lover or an abundance lover?
  • Am I a finisher or an opener? (This issue is frequently a challenge for individuals diagnosed with ADHD where starting projects is much easier than completing them.)
  • Am I a familiarity lover or a novelty lover? (Seeking novelty is another characteristic of individuals with ADHD.)
  • Am I promotion-focused or prevention-focused?
  • Do I like to take small steps or big steps? (one of my favorite questions, though I have a bias about the value of small steps based on the book, One Small Step Can Change Your Life by Robert Maurer)

Rubin offers more questions that help create self-awareness:

  • How do I like to spend my time?
  • What do I value? (I frequently share a Values and Needs exercise with clients to help them answer this one.)
  • What are my current habits? (This question is a great place to begin with the A, Awareness, in the AEC Model I mentioned yesterday. The goal is to observe yourself as though you were a field biologist. That perspective helps looking at yourself with curiosity rather than judgment.)

tomorrow we’ll begin to look at Rubin’s Pillars of Habits.