Do we limit girls and tell them what they should or shouldn’t be?
Do we box them into expected roles?
I discovered this video today while watching a TED Talk and decided I would end my week by posting the link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhB3l1gCz2E
Rubin proposes that treats are a valuable strategy in developing habits. She explains that forming good habits can be draining and treats can play an important role in their development. She believes that a treat is a form of self-regard. When they help us feel energetic and happy, they can play a key role…
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Remember when Rubin talked about the thirty-day Blast Start to jump start a new habit?
I love this line in the current chapter: "The real test of a thirty-day Blast Start is what happens on day 31." I used my own 30-day challenge to get started on blogging and I kept my commitment to blog…
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Rubin offers a fascinating perspective about the downside of rewards when building habits. She concludes that rewards can actually be dangerous to habit formation.
She refers to ideas introduced by Daniel Pink in Drive about the very complex consequences of rewards. Pink explores extrinsic versus intrinsic rewards. When we are extrinsically motivated, we do an activity…
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Continuing the discussion of distractions, Rubin describes two types of trances that impact us. One is the "bad trance" and the other is the "good trance."
The "bad trance" hits when you are exhausted. It's the paradox of being too tired and too wired to go to bed. This is a great example of when…
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When I started this chapter titled "Wait Fifteen Minutes," I figured it was about the "Power of the Pause." It was sort of about that idea, but Rubin's perspective was more about the value of distractions. Now, as an ADHD Coach, helping people manage their distractions is my focus rather than helping them seek ways…
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